Is The Church Still Relevant?

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I’ve asked myself this question many times over the last 10 years. For most of my memorable life, I have grown up as a pastor’s kid. I’ve seen the good, bad and the ugly when it comes to the church. I’ve seen church people fight over the proverbial “carpet color choice” and then I’ve seen those same people be the hands and feet of Christ to those broken around them. What I have learned over my lifetime in the church is that God doesn’t need rituals, programs, sermons or revivals to accomplish His plan… For that much, He doesn’t even need perfect people. All He needs is someone willing to say yes in faith. Someone willing to say “yes” to …

A Christian’s Guide To Electing The Next U.S. President

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I think like most Americans, I have watched the latest media coverage to the build up of the Presidential Election mostly through a face-palm. I’ve been amazed at how similar this election is to a reality tv show. I’ve also found myself, like many Americans, confused, frustrated and downright disappointed that this is all we have to choose from. I’m not the type of person who talks politics all that much. Perhaps I’ll have a few conversations with my close friends and family, but I do my best not to become too absorbed into the black hole of politics… otherwise known during this time of year as social media. But, I have seen so many Christians jumping into the political …

God Has Not Given Up On You

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I’d never seen a hummingbird hang up-side-down like a bat. Until, that day in the garage. My wife’s voice carried like a gale force wind straight from the garage through the kitchen and right into my ear-hole. My spidey-senses were tingling as I tried to make sense of the words she was stringing together to gather my attention. Honestly, she could have been saying anything and it would have worked. It didn’t even need to make sense. “Colonel Sanders is dressed as a pineapple and eating a taco…”, Bam, job done. Head-Butting Hummingbirds So, I rushed to the garage to make sense of this commotion to find a hummingbird repeatedly head-butting my ceiling. Remembering clearly that no one wins with a …

Dear Church, We Don’t Trust You…

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Words flowed like soured honey offering the promise of being sweet and gracious but at first taste revealing how something once good had been turned into a rancid paste of disappointment. Opinions and tempers coalesced into a verbal crescendo of momentary but deep rooted anger. The flutter of whistling pages played the background melody to this spectacle as a hymnal was used as a symbolic hammer driving home his point. I honestly can’t remember the point he was trying to make but I remember thinking this wasn’t too far off from a mid-morning episode of Jerry Springer; minus the relationship choices. Some sit watching in the manner of a deer staring down the headlights of a car while others were more focused …

3 Steps To Forgiving People

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Today I thought we would dive right into a fun topic we all enjoy… Forgiveness.  Specifically 3 steps to forgiving people who have hurt us. Boy oh boy, how tough forgiveness can be. It’s one of those things that we love to receive, sing about, read books about… Shoot, we even love watching movies about it but then when it hits too close to home it becomes all to easy to justify not giving it. We all know how toxic unforgiveness can be to our souls; let alone our physical bodies. We just were not made to live in unforgiveness. I could write an entire book on unforgiveness but today we’ll just look at 3 short steps to get us …

Finding Beauty Within An UGLY Church

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I had been planting the seeds of this idea for years only to be rejected over and over. But, now… yes now was my chance. They were on the other side of the house and I was left there all alone. Just me and that ugly, monstrosity of a tree. All I needed was 45 unsupervised minutes with a chainsaw and a pre-prepared apology to my wife. It was a 50-year-old magnolia tree that had been left unpruned for at least 49 1/2 of those 50 years. Needless to say, it looked like a 100 foot shrubbery that loved to wipe it’s nasty stick fingers on my truck every time I left the house. I called it Mr. Sticky Fingers… (see what I did there… …

My New Ebook Is Now Available For FREE

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It’s been a busy few weeks here at the Gross household. One of my new projects, aside from organizing the garage, has been to create a short and graphical ebook as a precursor to my more indepth book, “I Forgive Church.” Well, it’s complete and I’m giving it away for FREE. So, what is it called? I’m glad you asked. It’s called, “STEPS – 7 Ways I Found Hope In A Church That Appeared Hopeless.” I’m so excited to get this book out there in the wild and hear your feedback. In it I narrowed down 7 things that helped me rediscover hope in the church. I should mention, I do not mean finding hope in the institution of the church but instead …

5 Ways To Talk To Someone Who Has Left The Church

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I think most of us know someone who has left the church. What many of us do not know is how to actually talk to them about it. For some the sheer awkwardness of the conversation causes them to avoid it like that 6-week old yogurt you forgot you had nestled in the back caverns of your fridge. For others, the lost church sheep is like a prized pokemon waiting to be caught. This coversation often uses many words and listens less. Think your younger sister who just learned how to talk but only knows two words… “no” and some other made up word that requires a doctorate in Linguistics to understand. The words just keep rolling out but they …

10 Things The Church Wants To See From Christians

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Today’s post is the second part to last weeks post, 10 Things Christians Want To See From the Church. So, let’s dive right in to the 10 Things The Church Wants To See From Christians: They Want You To Stop Looking At Them. I know, that sounds odd but it’s become habit to look at the institution of the church more than Christ. The church is full of failures and beauty but the only way you can see the beauty in her is by looking at her through the eyes of Christ. Which leads to the next point. Be The Change You Want To See. I think we can all agree the church has a lot of room left for improvement but …

10 Things Christians Want To See From The Church

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I think we all know someone who has lost hope in the way the church functions. Many have left to try greener pastures and then there are others who simply gave up and never intended to return. I once was the latter. The church felt fake, ugly and didn’t really appear all that interested in being more than a local civic club. Don’t get me wrong there were some really awesome people there but it seemed like when they were all gathered in the same room the sense of family was drowned out by all the religious rituals. My journey of rediscovering beauty in the church, despite her brokenness, was one that taught me a lot along the way. Today, I wanted to share …